FOREPLAY (PLEASURING): ORAL STIMULATION
This is extremely pleasant for both partners and many women who cannot have an orgasm in any other way often do so with their partner caressing their clitoris with his tongue. There is absolutely nothing revolting or dirty about kissing a woman’s genitals. Either lie between her open legs with your head coming from below or crouch over her with your penis on her upper chest or face and kiss her vulva like this. It helps to have a pillow under her bottom to raise the whole area slightly and to prevent you from breaking your neck! Lick the whole of the vulval area with your lips and tongue and dip your tongue into the vagina and stroke it upwards towards her clitoris. Caress the clitoris with your tongue as if you were using a finger and keep doing what she likes until she climaxes. Most women who have orgasms in other ways, and many who otherwise would not have had one, have extremely good orgasms from such oral caresses. There are lots of other positions (such as sitting on a chair or kneeling on all fours) in which you can kiss your partner’s vulva, so experiment and find what you both most enjoy.
In spite of this a word of caution is necessary since oral sex is a common area of conflict. Some women regard their vulvas as smelly, germ-ridden and revolting, and do not like their man to use his mouth there. Even if they do go ahead, a sign that this is so is that they dislike him kissing them on the mouth afterwards. Some men have a similar view. Some women feel the same about sucking the penis, especially if she suspects the man of wanting to ejaculate in her mouth.
Oral sex with a casual partner about whom there is uncertainty is potentially dangerous because, contrary to earlier opinions, it is now thought AIDS can be transmitted this way. There is an increased chance of AIDS being transmitted in this way from an HIV-positive man if the woman has recently cleaned her teeth because there will be tiny abrasions on the gums through which the virus can enter her bloodstream.
Apart from this the only danger in cunnilingus arises from blowing air into the vagina. Several women have died as a result due to the air reaching the bloodstream.
Cunnilingus: Not all men enjoy doing this to a woman and not all women enjoy having it done, yet it is an increasingly popular type of foreplay. Some women can have an orgasm with a man only in this way.
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